If the fun’s over before it even gets a chance to start, check out these ideas for delaying the big moment.
Arriving early may be cool at parties, but when it comes to the bedroom, premature ejaculation (or PE) can be embarrassing, if not distressing. A quick finish can deliver a swift blow (no pun intended) to confidence levels, leaving penis owners worried about how they measure up between the sheets.
If you’re popping bottles sooner into the celebration than you’d like, you’re not alone – according to Everyday Health, doctors estimate between 20 and 30 per cent of all men will experience premature ejaculation at some stage of their lives, and according to Australian sexual wellness brand, Frenchie, one in every three men in Australia suffers from premature ejaculation.
Now, just so we’re all on the same page about what actually constitutes PE, we’re not talking about going for half an hour when you were hoping for an all-night romp. “Acquired premature ejaculation” includes any sexual encounter that lasts less than three minutes, according to a scientific paper published in the the The Journal of Sexual Medicine.
The good news is, if you’re running a sprint rather than a marathon, there’s plenty you can to turn things around and slow your roll, as it were.
1. Invest in a ‘delay spray’
A numbing spritz is an easy on-the-go, in-the-moment option if you’re looking to make sex last longer, and Frenchie’s new L’Endurance delay spray is our pick. Crafted from clinically tested ingredients that are regulatory approved and used by healthcare professionals around the world, the spray-on product is pharmacy formulated and comes in a discreet pump bottle.
Active agents such as lidocaine and prilocaine can help numb things down, increasing the time between penetration and ejaculation. The spray takes effect within 15-20 minutes of application, but do remember to apply as directed and wipe off before the fun starts so as to avoid numbness for your partner.
2. Do the right workout
Yes, really – you can train yourself to last longer. How so? It’s all about strengthening your pelvic floor muscles, which support the bladder and bowel, and affect sexual function. Weak pelvis floor muscles can make it harder to delay ejaculation.
To boost this bit of your body, think hip thrusts, kettlebell swings, thrusts, thrusts and more thrusts to switch those kegels into gear, as well as specific kegel exercises. Want a pelvic floor program? No worries – this is the exact workout you need to help you beat premature ejaculation. It’s important to remember that not all PE dramas can be solved with a workout – be sure to chat to your GP about whether this is the right option for you.
3. Get savvy in the moment
Okay, this little trick doesn’t necessarily delay the climax itself, but it’s a banger of a move that your partner will probably enjoy (like, a lot) if they happen to have a clitoris. According to sex therapist and author of She Comes First, Ian Kerner, using your penis in some different ways can be the key to climaxing when you want.
“Perpendicular sex positions allow for clitoral stimulation without penetration, which can help you last longer,” he previously told Men’s Health.
“Instead of penetrating, press your shaft lengthwise against her clitoris and gently move it back and forth… When she’s getting close, switch to a more stimulating position. With luck she’ll reach orgasm first, even if you ejaculate within a minute or so.”
Of course, if you have any concerns at all about PE, it’s important visit your doctor. They can help you figure out what’s causing you to pop off before the party really gets started and offer advice on possible treatment options.
